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You need him or her to be a part of your life in some way or another, not because you want to own a piece of this person, but because you want to give him or her a piece of yourself; loving someone is deeming him or her worthy of owning a part of you.

It isn't about ownership; it's about wanting only the best for that individual — something that often means letting that love go.

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I grew up on fairy tales and love stories that taught me to believe that being in love and loving are the same thing. Being in love with someone and loving that person are two different things.

Hearts were broken repeatedly over the years, and although I wish the pain could have been avoided, the experiences taught me more than any book or class ever could.

(Excerpts from that conversation will appear in another post.) The end result of our discussion was not any of the group members trying the experiment with each other—though some secret crushes surely exist among our writers. And then sifting out those who aren’t right for you. What if I’m a man who likes women but women just don’t like me? Trust your discernment and your ability to go after what you want.

Your brain is producing the most amazing chemical cocktail, making you feel as if you were floating atop of a cloud.

You get high just by being in love with a person — and it's a sort of high you never want to let go of. This is where the problem lies: You inevitably do come down.

What we got instead was a masterful post by Bryan Reeves: How to Get Anyone to Fall in Love With You (in Theory). And one more thing: You might practice all those behaviors you mentioned, but it might still not work out with someone you like. It just means that you two weren’t compatible anyway. The cataclysmic shift from worrying about your own worthiness, hoping that attractive person will like you, and relying on that person for validation, to choosing a partner worthy of you because you know your own value. What if I’ve been rejected so many times I’d rather just pay for sex, become a hermit, or enter the priesthood? You have something to offer, even if it’s just kindness or a great sense of humor. You can start with confidence affirmations and begin to shift the way you present yourself to the world. Trust that there’s no one type of guy who gets the girl (if you’re looking for a girl).

The cataclysmic shift from worrying about your own worthiness, hoping that attractive person will like you, and relying on that person for validation, to choosing a partner worthy of you because you know your own value. What’s interesting is that the prevailing custom of men doing the asking out puts us in the self-questioning frame of, “Am I worthy to date you? What if I’m the guy who gets friend-zoned with no benefits? You’re a unique individual with a personality, a way of being, and a collection of talents that no other person possesses. This is not a trick or some sort of pick-up artistry. Being comfortable in your own skin, even though you haven’t had much skin-to-skin contact lately. Trust that you don’t have to be ripped, or rich, or recognized for your contributions to society to deserve a nice, attractive, loving partner. It just doesn’t seem possible that it will happen when it hasn’t happened yet. When you trust this way, you’ll find your heart opening (as Bryan describes), and with it will open a new world of possibilities.

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